That's the title of one of the Simpson's character's self help/how to dvd series or something like that. Micah and I talk about it all the time - how you can't just make people do or be something they aren't. It's not to say that they can't change. It's just that you can't make them change.
I've thought about that a million times reading this book. The no name girl was so infuriating to me because she would have all these fantasies in her head planning what she would do or say or want and then she would say "okay" to the exact opposite of what she had planned. Lame.
Also I thought about the idea of her changing a lot. Carlie got some good counsel lately: Exercise your confidence as you would your body. I mean, in this book she kind of conquered her shyness and fear of Mrs. Danvers, but it was really only because of circumstances outside of her control.
In real life you can't count on a good plot twist to give you the confidence you need. You have to take charge yourself.
Anybody remember my splotchy red neck when I get nervous? I still totally get it sometimes, I just don't care that it's there and I don't let it distract from the task at hand. I don't let it debilitate me, but it definitely still happens sometimes. Now mostly when I embarrassed, not nervous. I think that having a baby with more than 10 people in the room helped me be a lot less embarrassed in life. You should try it :)
I really like Maxims name, in all its forms.
I really think that as far as relationship studies go, I'm not a fan of Maxim and girl. I mean thank goodness it turns out how it does, but I don't like how they got there. I guess I just really think you should tell your husband about things that happen even if the scary dude and Mrs. Danvers said not to. Truthful communication is a recipe for a good relationship. And there was so much she didn't tell him even about her own thoughts and feelings.
I really enjoyed reading this book. I never would have chosen it on my own, but I loved it! I finished it last night and it's been the topic for many good conversations lately. I mean, even just carrying the scandalous looking red book around gets everybody talking.
Thanks Kim!
Randi, I can't wait to hear what's next.
Also, I'm pretty sure I have my next book chosen, but I'm not saying anything until it's my turn.
I love you all.
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I agree with everything said in this post. And what great advice! Exercise your confidence. I think everyone could use a little exercising of their confidence. Oh yeah, in my post I said that Bee might think Rebecca a better match for Maxim, but I guess not. I'm not done with the book yet, but everything just came out and, yeah, she didn't like Rebecca. And neither do I.
so nobody has commented on the fact that narrator chick is totally fine with the fact that her husband is a murderer. The author writes it in a way to make you believe it was okay for him to kill his wife, and I kinda fell for it. But what do you guys think?
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